Episode 94

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13th Oct 2025

79:: The female brain on motivation & discipline (how estrogen influences our brain throughout the menstrual cycle!)

Ever wondered why some days you’re overflowing with motivation, and others it feels like every task takes extra effort? In this episode, we’re breaking down the science behind motivation vs. discipline — and how your hormones play a major role in both.

Learn how dopamine fuels your drive, how estrogen amplifies motivation and focus, and why your prefrontal cortex steps in when motivation dips. We’ll explore what’s really happening in your brain throughout each phase of your menstrual cycle, and how to work with your biology — not against it — to stay consistent, productive, and balanced.

Whether you’re building habits, trying to stay consistent with workouts, or just want to understand your energy and focus on a deeper level, this episode gives you the neuroscience-backed tools to harness both motivation and discipline — no matter what phase you’re in.

Topics Covered:

  • The neuroscience of motivation (dopamine 101)
  • The brain circuits behind discipline
  • How estrogen influences motivation & focus
  • Motivation and discipline across your menstrual cycle
  • How to structure your goals and habits based on your hormones

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00:00- 01:47 Introduction and Gratitude

01:48- 03:53 Understanding Motivation and Discipline

03:54- 05:33 The Science of Motivation: Dopamine

05:34- 08:38 Hormonal Influence on Motivation

08:39- 09:14 Safely

09:15- 13:20 The Role of Discipline in Achieving Goals

13:21- 18:53 Practical Tips for Balancing Motivation and Discipline

18:54- 19:26 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Transcript
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Let's Wellness Girl chat about the

interplay between motivation, discipline,

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the female brain, and our menstrual cycle.

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Welcome back to Wellness Exists, the Pod.

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I'm your host, Dr.

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Kelsey Vic, a board certified

orthopedic doctor, physical therapy,

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and a pelvic floor physical therapist.

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And before we dive in, this is my first

podcast that I'm actually recording after.

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I've already said thank you on all

social media platforms, but at the

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top of the podcast, I just wanna say

thank you so much to all of the new

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subscribers, new followers, people who

have shared the podcast in some way.

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I am so grateful.

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It's one of those things where anytime

I see the numbers just shoot up

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like they have over the past week or

week and a half, I just wanna thank

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every single one of you guys who

supports and just benefits from the

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education that I'm putting out there.

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And the.

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Behind the scenes effort that I'm

putting in to try and make these

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podcasts entertaining, but also super

useful and help you leave them feeling

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better about yourself, but also have

more knowledge about your body as

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a woman and your brain as a woman.

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So I'm just so grateful and I don't think

words can really say how grateful I am.

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So just know that I am so thankful and.

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I hope you guys can feel that even

through the audio, through the visuals,

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whatever it is that you're listening

or watching on, I'm just very grateful.

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So thank you.

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if you would like to leave a review

on Apple or Spotify or whatever

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platform you're listening on, I

would greatly appreciate that too.

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But just thank you so much for supporting.

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It means the world to me.

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Now back to motivation and discipline,

we've touched on this topic before and

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I think there's an interesting interplay

between motivation and discipline, our

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brains, but then also our hormonal cycle.

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So we'll talk about all of that today

and why you might feel more motivated

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during certain parts of your cycle

and then have to rely on discipline

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during other parts of your cycle.

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When we think about motivation and

discipline, what comes to mind?

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For me, motivation is the one I want.

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Motivation is like the exciting term.

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When I have motivation, it

means I'm more creative.

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I picture it almost like this

wave coming to me, picking me up

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and carrying me with the wave.

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it just comes to me.

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It's not something that I

necessarily cultivate, except if

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I cultivate it based on action.

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A lot of the times, if I perform

an action, I will be more motivated

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to perform the next action.

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So that's the only time it's

relatively in my control.

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Other than that, it's

sort of ebbs and flows.

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Sometimes it's based on a new

creative idea that comes to me.

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Sometimes it's based, again,

like I said, on actions.

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But it's almost always pleasant

and it's something that I want to

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act upon if I get motivation for

an idea or a behavior or an action.

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It's something that I want to do

and want to follow through with.

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So motivation breeds action for me.

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Just like that wave carries me along

and if I'm thinking of the ocean or

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like a swimming pool or something where

that wave just takes me and I ride

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along with it wherever it takes me.

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So I don't know what you guys think

of with motivation, but that's what I

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think of when it comes to motivation.

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It does wax and wane throughout my

cycle, so we'll talk about that later.

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And what really got me interested in this

topic, probably about a year ago when I

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started researching the interplay between

some of our chemicals within our brain

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and then also our hormones as women.

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Discipline.

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On the other hand, it's

something that I have to have.

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It's usually something that I have to do.

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Motivation is I want to, discipline

is I have to, it's this strong word,

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but when it comes down to being

disciplined, it's never that fun for me.

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I don't think of discipline

as like motivation where

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it carries me on the wave.

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I think of it more as like after that

waves died down, now I have to swim.

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I have to put in that effort.

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That's discipline to me.

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It is usually not glamorous, and it's

usually based on something that I

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have to do rather than motivation,

which is something I want to do.

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So what does neuroscience

have to say about all of this?

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Let's start with motivation or

the want to part of the equation.

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Motivation is heavily linked to

dopamine and we've chatted about

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dopamine on this podcast before.

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If you wanna sort of circle back, I

think we've built our dopamine mini, so

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I'll try and link that link below where

we get into the science of dopamine.

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But we can think of

dopamine as a messenger.

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It's the messenger that is in charge

of reward, motivation, pursuit.

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It helps us predict when good things might

happen, and it helps us to go after those.

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So dopamine is that messenger chemical

involved in all of those things,

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but it is definitely the messenger

chemical involved in motivation.

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It also helps with movement.

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I have to mention that as my little

physical therapist heart, but we'll

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talk about the motivation, rewards

side of dopamine today rather than

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the movement control side of dopamine.

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So the dopamine pathway for motivation,

dopamine is produced in released in

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response to a lot of different variables.

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I'm sure you guys have heard of a

lot of them, but it's released in

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response to something good happening,

an expectation or anticipation of a

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reward or accomplishing a certain task.

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It's released with music, with eating

enjoyable foods, with exercise, trying new

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things, social connections, celebrating

progress, gratitude, so many things.

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produce and release dopamine, both

internally in the states that we feel,

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but then also behaviorally like exercise

or eating a food that we really enjoy.

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So we'll get a little neurosciencey,

but dopamine's produced in the ventral

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pigment area and travels to a different

part of the brain to actually create

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that feeling of motivation and drive.

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So produced in one part, travels to the

other part, and that area of the brain

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is in charge of helping to motivate

and get us to actually pursue a goal.

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So from a women's health perspective, how

do our hormones and the various phases

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and cycles of hormones throughout our

body, within our menstrual cycle actually

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affect our dopamine, our motivation,

and our ability to pursue a goal?

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Estrogen acts as a dopamine amplifier.

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estrogen increases production of dopamine,

it reduces the breakdown of dopamine.

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It makes dopamine receptors

more responsive, and it

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blocks dopamine re-uptake.

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So in all ways, it amplifies dopamine.

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So as estrogen peaks within our menstrual

cycle, we can expect our levels of

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motivation and drive to also peak.

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So I don't know if you guys track your

cycle or are tuned in to when you feel

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more driven throughout your cycle or

a little bit less driven and have to

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rely on discipline a little bit more.

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But I started probably noticing

the cyclical pattern about

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a year and a half ago or so.

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And we've done an episode on it

related to how to build your schedule

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around when you might feel more or

less motivated throughout your cycle.

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But I thought it would be interesting

to dive into the true like hormonal

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physiology and neuroscience

around it so that we are all more

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aware of when we should maybe.

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Lean in to motivation versus rely

on discipline a little bit more.

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And I think it's truly one of those

things, not necessarily cycle syncing

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your mindset or anything, but I think it

allows us having this knowledge of what's

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going on within our bodies, hormonally,

neurologically, all of that helps us

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to give ourselves a little bit of grace

and then to use those times in our

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cycle when we feel super motivated or.

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We're willing to approach opportunities

in order to go after something, but then

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also give ourselves a little bit of grace

on the other side of it when we might

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feel a little less motivated, when we have

to rely a little bit more on discipline.

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So let's start with motivation.

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But in our menstrual phase,

so days one through five-ish,

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that's this low hormone phase.

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So both progesterone and estrogen

are relatively low, so estrogen and

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dopamine are both at their lowest.

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Again, estrogens.

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That dopamine amplifier tasks

that might be rewarding typically.

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Feel like they require more effort and

you may need more external motivation

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during this phase in the follicular phase.

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So days, one-ish through 14, but usually

after that menstrual phase, so days one

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through five, so this is on that back mid

to back half of that follicular phase.

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Estrogen starts low and rises

throughout our follicular phase.

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So if estrogen amplifies dopamine,

we expect dopamine, and therefore our

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motivation levels to also increase

steadily throughout that follicular phase,

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which is that days one through 14 ish.

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During the ovulation phase, that

is our peak reward system activity.

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Imaging studies have also shown

that our brains light up more in

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response to rewards during this phase.

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And then lastly, our luteal phase

as estrogen drops in our luteal

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phase, so do our levels of dopamine.

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We expect decreased motivation,

requiring more effort to feel

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rewarded during this phase.

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So overall in this luteal phase,

we expect to be a little bit less

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driven and less enthusiastic overall

about pursuit of any sort of goals.

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So that's the motivation

side of the equation.

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Let's look a little bit into

the discipline side of it.

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Or the have to side of the equation.

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Discipline is a top down approach,

and anytime we talk about top down or

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bottom up, when we're talking about

neuroscience, we really are talking about

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the central nervous system, primarily

the brain's executive control over

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all of the different processes that

happen below, So our brain being the

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top down approach, our brain decides

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What actions we produce,

a bottom up approach.

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Things like exercise can have that

bottom up approach for motivation,

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where exercise can increase our

dopamine levels in the brain.

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So that behavior of exercise, that

action of exercise can influence our

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brain or that bottom up approach.

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So we have a command center or CEO of

our brain known as the prefrontal cortex.

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And if we're getting any sort of

signals, whether behaviorally, whether.

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Neurologically, , whether chemically,

our prefrontal cortex can actually

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override some of those signals.

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So when our dopamine's low, our prefrontal

cortex can actually override it and

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say, oh, I know you probably have

low motivation right now given your

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dopamine levels are a little bit lower,

but we have to complete this task.

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That's where that top

down approach comes in.

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That's where the command center, the

CEO really has to step in and say,

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I know you might not feel motivated,

but you have to be disciplined

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in order to accomplish this task.

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So the prefrontal cortex sends brain

signals down the pathway to help regulate

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other brain regions to produce the action

that we want, or really that it wants.

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Since what we want might differ from

what our prefrontal cortex wants or

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knows that we want long term, but

we might not want in the short term.

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So we can actually override

our brain's impulses and

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signals when motivation is low.

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The discipline headquarters in the

dorsal lateral prefrontal cortex,

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which is just fancy terms for the

location in the prefrontal cortex.

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So you can think of the prefrontal

cortex as just that command center,

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that CEO, and there's a lot of different

regions within that prefrontal cortex

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that are involved in discipline.

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All of these fancy terms make

it sound more complex, but just

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think of it as the command center.

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So the discipline headquarters are

in the dorsal, lateral preferential

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cortex, and that's a specific area

within that command center, that CEO,

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that structure that can help us override

some other signals that we're getting.

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So the discipline headquarters have a few

jobs, one of 'em involving working memory.

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So it allows us to hold our goals in mind.

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When motivation is low, it

allows us to switch strategies.

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So executive planning, if plan

A is not working, it allows us

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to switch strategies to plan B.

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It offers inhibitory controls, so

stopping yourself from doing something

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you know you shouldn't be doing,

and it creates structure so it's

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involved in planning and organizing.

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So it helps to create that structure,

especially when you don't feel like it.

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Okay, so another part of the

prefrontal cortex, the ventral medial

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part evaluates short-term pleasure

versus long-term consequences.

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So this is where we might be a little

bit more tired or just low motivation

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working on a certain project, this

is the area that sort of evaluates is

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this short term want or desire going

to help me reach my long term goals.

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So it cues us to say, Hey.

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That rest or that nap might not actually

help you reach the goal that you have in

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mind of finishing this project and getting

it back to school or your boss or whatever

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deadline you have set for yourself.

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So it evaluates that short-term

pleasure versus that long-term

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goal you have for yourself.

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And lastly, when it comes to discipline,

the brain has an alarm system, the

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anterior cingulate cortex, if you care

about location or names of things, but

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it's basically the alarm system, And it

sends an alarm when what you are driven

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or not driven to do, as determined by

dopamine, is in conflict with what you

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should do as determined by your goals.

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So after that evaluation process, if

there is this disconnect, this alarm

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system kicks in to say, Hey, this is

not going to help you reach those goals.

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Let's reevaluate the situation.

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So the alarm system sounds, sends

signals back to the command center

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to say, we need you to step in here

with a little bit of discipline.

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So let's talk about it in practice

a little bit just to get a more

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well-rounded picture Of how

discipline works within our cycle.

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So let's say you're in your

luteal phase, dopamine is low,

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you're feeling low motivation,

but you have a big project due.

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The anterior cingulate cortex

senses this disconnect.

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So it's the alarm system.

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It alerts the CEO or the command center.

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The prefrontal cortex.

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The prefrontal cortex sends inhibitory

signals to stop avoidance behaviors.

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So you're trying to avoid that project.

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This prefrontal cortex, the CEO

of the command center, overrides

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that to inhibit some of those.

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Lazier things that we might

wanna do when we have lower

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dopamine and lower motivation.

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The prefrontal cortex also continues

to keep the long-term goal recognition

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part of the brain online to remind

you like, Hey, remember this goal

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you have for yourself or this

goal that you wanna accomplish.

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Remember that this current momentary

want or desire that you have is short

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term, where that is your long term goal.

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And then lastly, the brain overrides

low motivation and relies on

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discipline to accomplish the task.

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So from a women's health

approach, estrogen also

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actually enhances discipline.

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It's not one or the other.

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There's a strong interplay between both.

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So the way estrogen also amplifies

discipline is that it enhances working

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memory to hold long-term goals in mind.

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There's easier switching between plan

A, B, and C, stronger inhibition to

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override low motivation, and there's

increased prefrontal cortex control.

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So this is where the body, you're like,

why couldn't it be a different way?

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Why can't estrogen help one and

progesterone help the other?

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That's just not how it's built.

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And progesterone actually has a complex

relationship with both motivation

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and discipline that we don't quite

understand yet, which is why we're

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strictly talking about estrogen.

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But research is conflicting on

progesterone's effects in each

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phase of our menstrual cycle when it

comes to motivation and discipline.

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But estrogen has pretty

strong effects with.

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Both dopamine and discipline, which

is why we are looking at it through

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the lens of estrogen primarily.

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But during a high estrogen

phase, not only do we have more

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motivation, but we also have more

discipline when motivation is low.

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So motivation can wax and wa,

even in that high estrogen, high

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dopamine, high motivation phase,

like it can still wax and wane.

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And if it does tend to decrease

during, let's say that later part of

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the follicular phase when we expect

high dopamine levels, high motivation.

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If you happen to drop in, your

dopamine levels have a little lower

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motivation, estrogen can kick in to

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enhance discipline during

this phase as well.

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So it does both.

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Discipline is especially important

in the low estrogen phases.

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When motivation is low, we have

to override the pull of relative

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laziness with a top down approach.

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Again, enacting

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that top down approach,

pressing that override button to

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override some of those lazier.

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Low motivation habits that we

might have in those lower estrogen,

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lower dopamine phases of our cycle.

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so how can we maximize both motivation

and discipline throughout our menstrual

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cycles as women in the high estrogen

phase, the late follicular to ovulation,

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to a little bit of early luteal?

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We can approach opportunities.

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We can create a structure

to rely on later when.

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Motivation's low.

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Sometimes creating that good solid

structure to be more disciplined

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with later on can really help.

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We can take on new creative and

challenging projects, and when dopamine

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is high, let motivation lead, but also

use discipline to narrow our focus, build

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habits, and prevent impulsive decisions.

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In those lower estrogen phases

of our cycle, we can rely

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more heavily on discipline.

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Understand it might take

more of that top-down effort.

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So if you're having trouble

overcoming that barrier to start

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that task or to finish that task,

just give yourself a little bit of

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grace knowing that your brain is

actually trying to work through that.

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We're trying to get that command center on

board to override some of those impulses

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that we have to maybe be a little bit

more lazy or lean into some of those

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desires that we want, that might not

help us reach those long-term goals.

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So it's a way to just give yourself

a little bit of grace too by knowing

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how your brain's working and how your

hormonal physiology is working as a

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woman in those lower estrogen phases.

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You can also let discipline lead and use

small strategies to increase motivation.

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So breaking up large goals

into small attainable goals.

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That way when you accomplish a

goal, you accomplish a task that

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dopamine's gonna elevate anyway.

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So that's that bottom up approach.

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You're doing a behavior that is naturally

going to elevate dopamine no matter if

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you're in that lower estrogen phase.

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You can also exercise and you might

have to lean more on extrinsic rewards

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or external rewards, in order to feel

more motivated during a certain task.

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In this lower estrogen phases.

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So again, that early follicular

phase, that late luteal phase, you can

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focus on current routines rather than

trying to build and maintain new ones.

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That's a follicular

phase Kelsey thing to do.

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Build new routines, set goals, set

reminders, really structure her day

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in the most efficient way possible.

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And then luteal phase, Kelsey is like.

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oh my gosh, what was I thinking?

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There is no way I can complete all

these tasks in the day, and that's okay.

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If you struggle with this, maybe try

and stick to your current routines

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rather than creating new routines.

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On top of that, you can use external

rewards and structure more and be

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patient with yourself because your

brain's working a little bit differently.

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A fun fact to end on successful

discipline actually increases dopamine.

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When your brain overrides low

motivation to complete a challenging

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task, your brain releases dopamine

as a reward for that effort.

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The cycle continues making the next

action that much easier to do because

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you have those elevated dopamine levels.

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A little bit more motivation

to complete that next task.

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This is probably one of my

favorite topics to research.

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So I hope you guys enjoyed this episode.

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I hope you learned a lot from it.

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I'd be happy to dive more into the

science, but I like to try and position

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this education in the like fun way.

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And educational way, not like super in

depth, neurosciencey, just enough to where

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we can all understand our bodies a little

bit better without getting into the weeds.

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But if you wanna get into the weeds,

I'd be more than happy to take us there.

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So you guys just let me know.

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I hope you enjoyed this podcast and

I'll see you guys again on the next

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episode of Wellness Fixes the Pod.

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Wellness Big Sis: The Pod
Wellness Big Sis: The Pod (By Maven Media) includes wellness girl chats by host, Kelsy Vick, a board-certified orthopedic Doctor of Physical Therapy. Join us as we learn about our female bodies and all aspects of wellness, creating a sisterhood of empowered wellness big sisters... without the clothes-stealing ;)
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Kelsy Vick

Dr. Kelsy is a Board-Certified Orthopedic Doctor of Physical Therapy, a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist, and the Founder of elää wellness, a global wellness education and action agency for women. As the host of wellness big sis:: the pod, she hopes to share science-backed education for young women in a fun and simplified way. Join us!

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